I Will Miss You.

Dear Journal,

Today I want to talk about something that is very… tragic and unexpected. Death has always been something that scares me, I guess it’s the same for a lot of people. I mean, it’s a very morbid and scary thing to think about.

Death puts life into prospective. It makes us realise just how short our lives really are. It makes us understand that we should appreciate the people and the things that we have in our lives. We don’t live forever and we should love and appreciate the things we have now before it’s too late.

Yesterday afternoon I received a text from one my friends in South Korea. I used to live in a small countryside town and there was a group of foreign teachers who used to get together from time to time.

She texted me saying that one of our friends had died. She had to be joking I told myself. But why would she joke about that? My heart sunk. I just didn’t understand, I still don’t understand. He was one of the people I said goodbye to before I left Korea. We were drinking at the usual bar the last time I saw him. Before I left he told me about his plans to continue traveling and he suggested a long list of places I should visit. He hugged me and told me to ‘do what makes me happy’ as after all, this is my life. 

But now, he’s gone. 

I send my deepest condolences to his family and friends. Jake was an incredible person. He was always so cool and calm. He made me laugh. I loved listening to his stories about traveling. I always hoped I could be as carefree as him.

Maybe someday, I will get to visit all of those places he suggested.

Jake, I will truly miss you. ❤

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The Best Piece of Advice I’ve been given. 

 As you grow up you are often given lots of different advice by lots of different people. Whether its from your family, school, University or friends, advice inpacts you and helps you grow. 

Today I want to talk about some of the best advice I have been given when I was growing up. 

“Do your best.”

I was lucky growing up. My parents supported everything that I wanted to do. They let me try different things. They helped me experience new activities which allowed me to find out quite early the things that I really enjoyed doing. 

Of course not everyone is good at everything and I remember my mom saying all the time. “Hannah, just do your best” It was really helpful. There was no pressure. 

“Keep Going.”

Even when you find something you truly enjoy it can be very difficult at times. Nothing’s easy. You have to work hard for the things you want. 

But i think. Hands down this next one is the most influential piece of advice I’ve been given. 

“Is it the end of the world?”

My answer to that question is always “no”. However I do tend to take everything very seriously. I treat everything seriously, if its not perfect then why am I doing it? Which is a very silly attitude to have. The point of doing something is to make mistakes, then learn from then. 

During the conversation with the person who gave me this advice. They asked me. “If you don’t perfectly finish something, is it the end of the world?” No of course it isn’t. Will it bother me if it’s not perfect? Yes. Will I stress out about it? Yes. Should it stop me from trying? No. 

This person told me to not let perfection get in the way of actually doing things and being productive. If you make a mistake or it’s not perfect, that’s okay. Nothings perfect. And most importantly if you make a mistake it’s not the end of the world. You can get back up and try again.  

I found it really useful. It really helped to ‘be okay’ with making mistakes. It allowed me to accept that even if you make a mistake you can just try again the next day. It’s okay. 

What are some of the best pieces of advice you’ve been given? How have they impacted your life? 

– Hannah

Why I Moved To South Korea. 

 Everyone has their own reasons for doing things. 
In England I felt trapped almost suffocated. I just didn’t know what to do. I just knew that being in England just wasnt helpful and I felt that I needed to leave. I’ve always wanted to travel. Asia especially. It was South Korea that I was drawn to. It was something about the language, the food and the culture. I just remember thinking that it was something that I wanted to be apart of. So that was it…! My decision to go was made!

As children (in England at least) you are brought up in the world to study —-> figure out what job or career you want —-> then work. You’re expected to figure your entire life out whilst you’re still at school. 

The system doesn’t allow for people to not know what they want to do with their lives. 

For a big part of my life I was okay. I knew exactly what I wanted to do in life and where I wanted to go. All the way through high school —-> through sixth form —->  through University. I had an incredible amount of passion for filmmaking. I figured that filmmaking was something that I would do for the rest of my life. 

I remember saying to myself at one point “I don’t understand people who don’t have it figured out…” And “It’s not difficult, find something you love and do that for the rest of your life.” Oh how wrong I was! 

I graduated University and I didn’t have a clue of what I was doing with my life! I was lost. 

Eventually, I had accepted that maybe media wasn’t for me. But, where does that leave me…? At the bottom and staring up at what seemed like mountains of different decisions to make! 

For months I felt sorry for myself. I wallowed in self-pity for a good 8 months. Then I decided I couldn’t live my life like that anymore. I learned to accept that it was okay that I didn’t have a ‘life map’ because realistically, who does? 

I needed to find myself, and that’s why I came to South Korea. BEST DECISION EVER! 🙂 

“I’m just a girl trying to find her place in this world” 

– Hannah 

P.S. Have you struggled to find what you want to do in your life? If so, how did you overcome it. 

The Secret Life. 

So I’ve realized that the majority of things that I write about on this blog is about the positives of living in South Korea. I did however write a post about the things that I don’t like about Korea, but this time I want to talk about something more specific. 

It seems to be a pretty normal thing here for men to go to ‘business rooms/clubs’. From what I’ve heard, its rooms where men can go and hire women to dance or have sex with them. I’ve heard its extremely common for men to go there as a ‘work night out’. To be honest, I find this whole concept just disgusting. What makes it one hundred times worse is that the women married to these men don’t think that there is anything wrong with this behavior. This I will never understand… 

Honestly, what confuses me further is, in Korean society men and women can’t meet each other (even for coffee) if either one of them is married or in a relationship. To me, this seems fair and reasonable) However, what I will never understand is, its unacceptable to meet a person of the opposite sex but if a man wants to go on a ‘work night out’ thats okay. Yes yes. Its also extremely sexist. Welcome to Korea. He can go to a business club and have sex with some girl and their wives or girlfriends don’t consider that as cheating. I’m sorry for this as I know my parents read my blog sometimes BUT THAT IS FUCKED UP!! LIKE SERIOUSLY!! How is that not cheating on your partner??? And how is that okay???

Drinking is such a huge part of Korean society. But I refuse to accept that in order to get promoted or get a job at a company you want to work for, you have to have sex with a girl at a business club to impress ‘the boss’.

No no no. I’m sorry but that is just too ridiculous!! Like do their wives or girlfriends just have no self-respect? Or do their husbands just have no respect for their partners? Either way this is a part of Korea I’m REALLY not liking! 

Is there any wonder men and women take their phones with them everytime they leave the room? Even when they go to the bathroom. What could possibly happen in the two minutes you take in the bathroom…? Its odd and secretive. Their phones are permanently attached to them. Its actually very sad. What ever happened to being faithful and trusting your partner…?

I’m really not having a great week here so far. Its stuff like this that makes me entirely reconsider living here. This is a part of Korea that I will not accept and it is definetely something I will never be able to get my head around. 

*Excuse me while I go and sit in the corner and cry whilst rethinking my life decisions!*

Im keen to get other peoples thoughts on this. Feel free to tell me what you think. 

P.s. Is the secret life much more interesting…?