Why Building Confidence Has Become My No. 1 Goal!

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Confidence is always something that I’ve struggled with. Over the past year or so I’ve been trying my upmost best to build up my confidence.

I often feel like I am trying to prove to myself that I can do things. I can go to the shops by myself. I can get on that train by myself. To be quite honest I feel a bit strange writing this down because if you’ve followed me for a while you will know that I moved away for university. I also went and lived in South Korea by myself.

So for someone who has lived alone and managed to move halfway across the world, how can they struggle with confidence?

Well to tell you the truth I go through phases of being confident and then being withdrawn. Some days I feel like I can do anything. Then other days it’s like I don’t have any confidence and I just want to hide away.

It’s very frustrating, I want to be confident.

To build my confidence I have tried to make myself do small things. Maybe I will walk to the shop by myself. Maybe I will go and sit in a coffee shop for an hour or so. or maybe I will get on a bus and go to a nearby town for the day. Like I said, some days all of those things are so easy and enjoyable to accomplish and I quite often don’t even think about it. Other days its a chore to do those things.

One of the things I learnt whilst doing CBT was to reward the things that you find difficult. I try and set myself goals of the things I want to achieve. Once I achieve a goal I make sure that I reward myself for doing it. My CBT therapist always emphasised the importance of this technique as it trains the brain to recognise the goal as a positive thing rather than something to be anxious/scared about.

Over the coming week I’m going to be working on taking walks by myself. You might be aware that I’ve just moved to a new place so I’m working on making myself feel more comfortable here. I think this is a very positive step for me so I’m looking forward to achieving this goal. I think that it will do wonders for my confidence. 😀

What techniques do you use to build your confidence?

– Hannah ❤

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10 Things I Tell Myself When I’m Feeling Down.

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We all have those days where we have had a relatively good day but for some reason we end up feeling a bit meh.

Today was one of those days for me. I had a great day at work, I came home and had a snack, I watched some Netflix then before I knew it I didn’t feel great. I’m not sure what made me feel like that. I picked myself up and did a little bit of yoga. I always find that doing yoga allows me to stretch out my stresses. I’ve been feeling quite body conscious recently and doing yoga today has helped me feel a bit more at ease with myself.

On those days where yoga just isn’t enough I find that writing down the positive things in my life really helps.

Here are 10 things I that I tell myself when I’m feeling down:

✨ I am enough.

✨ Things will get better.

✨ I have overcome so much. I can overcome this too.

✨ I am my biggest investment.

✨ Keep being me.

✨ I have achieved so much.

✨ I am worthy.

✨ Take time to love myself.

✨ Do more of what makes me happy.

✨ Treat myself how I would treat others.

So those a just a few things I try to tell myself when I’m feeling down. I feel that by telling myself things like that on a regular bases really helps with my self-esteem and my confidence.

How do you deal with your bad days?

– Hannah ❤

Getting a Head Start on Mondays.

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Hey there! It’s been a pretty busy week over here! I did my first full week at work which was great. I’m loving working in a coffee shop. It’s so intimate and friendly. And of course, THE COFFEE! I’m back at work tomorrow, I can’t wait to see what this working week brings.

Today I had a day off, as did the boyfriend. We woke up kind of early, got ready and made our way to McDonalds for have breakfast. I feel like I’ve not had breakfast there in a while. We decided that we would do a big food shop today so after breakfast we made our way to Lidl.

It was a productive shop I think. Being an adult is strange…

It’s starting to get a bit warmer too which is great so it was nice walking between the shops. I’m truly sick of the rainy and cold weather.

Every Sunday I try and do a big clean up but today I wanted to do a big spring clean of the apartment. That means, washing up done, laundry done, bedding changed, bathroom thoroughly cleaned, etc.

It’s so nice to get ready for the coming week. Tidy house, tidy mind I always say! I like to be able to go to bed on a Sunday night and be able to get ready for work without my mind feeling cluttered because the apartment is messy.

On Sundays (in preparation for Monday) I often like to:

✨ Do a hair/face mask

✨ Meal prep for the following day/week

✨ Wash my makeup brushes

✨ Prepare my clothes for the following day

✨ Write in my journal

✨ Read a book

Those are just a few things I like to do to prepare to have a successful start to the week. A little self-care and pampering always puts me in a good mood and ready to have a productive week.

What do you do to prepare for a successful Monday?

– Hannah ❤

I Have News.

Dear Journal,

Ready?

I have a job. I’m so happy! I hate not having a job. A job makes me feel like I have a purpose, a responsibility.

I have always wanted to work in a coffee shop and now I’ve got the chance to experience that coffee barista life.

Tomorrow is my last day training then I will be hopefully starting paid shifts from next Monday.

I have a busy few days after tomorrow, I’m hoping to be filming what I get up to.

Check out my new video over on my YouTube channel 🙂

I hope you’re all having a great week.

– Hannah ❤

My First Few Days In Kent.

It’s been a busy week this week and it’s only Wednesday!

On Monday I moved all the way from my parent’s house in Hull all the way down to Dover. My boyfriend and I have got a flat here.

The move went fairly easy. We got everything in the flat, my dad and sister stayed a little while before setting off back to Hull.

I didn’t really do much yesterday asides from unpacking and going food shopping with Josh.

I’m feeling much more settled today, most of my stuff is unpacked and in place. I have been asked to have some coffee shop training next Monday-Wednesday which is exciting. You all know how much I love coffee!  I managed to register myself at the doctors too, that makes me feel a bit more at ease for when I need to get some more medication.

I also had a bit of time to walk along the seafront. It was just so beautiful. I will definetely be spending more time down there when the weather gets a bit warmer.

I’m so glad that I have made the decision to move down here. I think this is going to be a really positive step for me.

How is your week going?

– Hannah ❤

Love Yourself.

I feel like I spend a lot of my time reminding people to love themselves and I find that I neglect to love myself.

Today I’ve been doing a lot of thinking. Its going to be a very emotionally changing next few months. I need to remember to not be too hard on myself. Maybe once in a while I need to cut myself some slack.

✨ I am doing my best.

And if I have a bad day. I need to remind myself of this:

✨ Things WILL get better.

I’ve also been asking myself this (it’s also a quote btw)
“Was it a bad day? Or was it a bad five minutes that you milked all day?”

I’m so guilty of writing off an entire day as a bad day when in fact, realistically it was probably just a bad couple of hours.

Here are a few things that I have tried to remind myself of today:

✨ Always make time for yourself.

✨ Be brave.

✨Be bold.

✨ Value yourself.

✨ Celebrate the things you love.

I hope you’ve all had a fantastic day! 

–  Hannah ❤

My Photo From Photowall.

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As many of you are aware, I’m moving to Kent early next month! I’m very excited to start this new chapter of my life.

When Photowall contacted me at the beginning of this month and asked if I would be interested in reviewing their canvas prints, I jumped at the opportunity! I found it very difficult to pick which print I wanted. I wasn’t sure whether I wanted one of my images printed or whether I wanted to pick one from one of their diverse collection.

After much thought I came across this watercolour print of London skyline. I immediately fell in love with it! I thought it would be perfect for mine and the boys new apartment.

The ordering process was so quick and easy! The print was delivered fast and very well packaged.

Putting it together was fairly simple. Easy to follow instructions were included in the box too as well as supports to hang it on the wall.

I’m in love with this print so much. The quality of the canvas is great and sturdy too. The colours are just beautiful. I’ve found the spot in which I will put this canvas up in the apartment and I think it will look beautiful!

Having a nice environment really helps you to have a clear and healthy mind. Thats what I want to aim for when I move into my new place. I want it to be bright and airy and I think that this canvas print will be perfect for my new place!

Are you moving out? Or re-decorating? Or just want a treat for yourself?

I highly suggest buying from Photowall! They have set up a 20% discount code for me to give to you all.

Use the code: HannahClarkeCampaign2018
(It will be active for 30 days)

http://www.photowall.com

– Hannah ❤

Positive Affirmations.

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Sometimes we just need a few written reminders of just how brave, strong and amazing we can be!

Mental illness can really wear us down and make us both mentally and physically drained. It’s been one of those days for me.

But despite having a pretty bad morning, lots of positive things have come from today. I planned a few big surprise things that will be happening in the next few months. I went shopping with my friend. (she is just adorable and really makes me smile) I’m so lucky to have her! I bought some food for dinners as well as some ingredients to do some baking on my day off on Friday! I also took a bath and did some reading. I’m reading such a cute book at the minute. I admit, I’m a huge fan of the romance books! I’m also planning on going to the gym after work tomorrow!

I would say a pretty positive day in the end!

If you’re feeling down, useless or unmotivated, I highly suggest writing some positive affirmations down. Even if you don’t believe them right away, it’s great to have them as a motivator.

✨ YOU are stronger than you think!

✨ YOU are worthy of happiness and love!

✨ YOU are more incredible than you think you are!

✨ YOU do deserve a break!

✨ YOU can do this!

✨ I believe in you.

I hope you are enjoying your week so far.

– Hannah ❤

I’m Moving to Kent.

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So, I’ve been keeping this quite quiet for a little while now. I’m so happy that I can now tell everyone about it!

At the beginning of March I will be moving in with my boyfriend. It’s going to be so great to see him everyday rather than just once a month. I can imagine that going from being long distance to living together will present a few issues, but I’m so confident that we are both going to love it.

I’m so excited to start this next chapter of our lives together. I’m looking forward to sharing this new part of my life with you all.

Do you have any advice for moving in with your boyfriend? It would be greatly appreciated.

– Hannah ❤

How Journaling is Helping My Recovery.

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In the past, my previous therapists have always suggested that I keep a journal. I’ve kept a journal on and off for about 13 years. During a bad patch last year I decided that having those journals were holding me back from becoming the person that I wanted to be, so I made the decision to burn them.

This month I decided that I would start to use the journal that my sister had bought me. Only when I fill in the pages now, I don’t use the same format that I have used previously. I just found that writing about my day and how I feel wasn’t that helpful for me.

I decided that I would pick a moment before I go to bed, maybe light a candle or two and reflect on the day. I would write down all of the positives that I could think of that happened during the day. I always find that if I have a bad day, I tend to dwell on the fact that it was a bad day and allow it to consume me.

I don’t allow myself to write those thoughts down. I try and just focus on the good things that I have happened that day!

This is really working for me right now. 😀

Do you keep a journal?

– Hannah ❤